Tuesday 13 December 2016

Marriage Prompting Counseling & Mentoring for Young Adults who remain Single - A Psychological Fine Tuning of Personality and Mental Makeup.




(Counseling and Mentoring Sessions hundred percent  CONFIDENTIALITY assured and Guaranteed) Session Venue: MANASANTHI CONSULTING, ANJILITHANAM,Tiruvalla.

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In many communities there is no place for the  Bachelor or the single woman except as a man at a dinner party or as a baby -sitter for married relatives.  It is also popularly assumed that men and women who do not marry will be lonely, unhappy and thwarted in their normal desires for sex, parenthood, affection from an admired member of the opposite sex, and the prestige that marriage and family living provide.  Furthermore, because early adulthood is a lonely time during which radical adjustments must be made in every area of life, many adults  feel that marriage will help them to make these adjustments.

There is no question about the fact that in a culture in which marriage is the normal pattern for adult life, most adults want to marry and come under strong pressure from parents and peers to do so .  During their twenties, the goal of most unmarried women, whether working or not, is marriage. If they have not married by the time they reach their thirtieth birthdays, they tend to shift their goals and values towards a new lifestyle oriented towards work, success and personal pleasures.

Thirty has been called a " critical age" for an unmarried woman.  As Campbell has put it, "For women, age thirty is still the Great Divide".  The reason for this is that the woman's life is often characterized by stress as she reaches her thirtieth birthday and is still unmarried.  This stress usually reaches a peak at thirty and then gradually decreases as she makes adjustments to new goals and a new pattern of living.  For many women, a desire for marriage and a family decrease after thirty as they realize they are not likely to achieve their goals. Further more, many become disillusioned with the thought of marriage as they see the unhappy and unfavorable experiences of some of their contemporaries.

How women feel about being unmarried varies according to the communities in which they live. Those who live in rural, small-town, or suburban areas are far more handicapped by single hood than are those who live in urban areas.  As one young women put it, " I would never live single in the suburbs again.  It"s deadly boring, and people make you feel as though you should apologize for being single.  Here in the city, I feel alive " .

Single men do not, as a rule, experience the stress that single women do.  They know that if they want to marry they can do so.  Many men remain single throughout their twenties or even thirties because they want to enjoy the freedom of single hood or because they want to devote their time and energy to becoming established in  their careers.  Some may have obligations to parents or they may be conditioned against marriage by unpleasant family conditions or by the experiences of their friends.



Some of the reasons Why  Young Adults remain Single.

> An unattractive or sex-inappropriate appearance.
> An incapacitating physical defect or prolonged illness
> Lack of success in the search for a mate
> Unwillingness to assume the responsibilities of marriage and parenthood
> A desire to pursue a career that requires working long and irregular hours or much travelling
> Residence / Belonging-ness in a community where the sex ratio is unbalanced
> Lack of opportunity to meet eligible members of the opposite sex
> Responsibilities for aging parents or younger siblings
> Disillussionment as a result of unhappy earlier family experiences or unhappy marital experiences
    of friends.
> Sexual availability without marriage
> An exciting lifestyle
> Opportunity to rise on the vocational ladder
> Freedom to change and experiment in work and lifestyle
> Belief that social mobility is easier when single than married
> Strong and satisfying friendships with members of the same sex
> Hosmosexuality

FROM THE ABOVE NOTE, any parent or guardian can understand the Psychological hindrance as to why the young adult remain single.  It is the primary duty of the Parent or Close Relatives or Guardian or individual himself/herself  to arrange for a  meeting with a  Counseling Psychologist/ Psychologist/ Counselor with whom there could be "opening of mind"   which can result in newer ways of thoughts and realignment of  Partner preferences and need for marriage. Such a meeting with a Psychologist/Consultant  could give more light to problems of single living etc. in a confidential environment.   You are at liberty to go to any Psychologist/Consultant..

However, if you wish to come to our Centre and meet Drdinakaran Gopalan, please call  9847027138  or Tel 0469 269 1157 and fix up your  appointment date and time.  Alternatively, you may send a mail to drgdinakaran1@gmail.com

In case you are unable to attend a face to face program at our Centre at Tiruvalla, you can ask for an Online Counseling Session .  Call 9847027138 For procedure you may visit our website www.successcouples.org  or www.globalopenuniversitykerala.com 


Drdinakaran Gopalan
MIND MANAGEMENT CONSULTANT, SPECIALIST MARITAL COUNSELOR AND CORPORATE TRAINER
MANASANTHI CONSULTING, ANJILITHANAM, PO, TIRUVALLA 689 582
9847027138   Tel   0469 269 1157
Website:   www.successcouples.org

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Mental Health Suggestions Affidavit submitted to the Hon High Court of Kerala by Drdinakaran Gopalan in 2012

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Mental Health Suggestions Affidavit submitted to the Hon. High Court of Kerala by Drdinakaran Gopalan, State President, Dr.D Purushothaman, Vice President and Adv. Saleem, Hons. Secretary, APCP in 2012.

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